![]() And be straight that you will ignore them if they try to. Whenever you put a finger to your lips, they can’t talk. When they hear you talking, they must be quiet. Give them the rules: When your door is closed, they can’t come in. Tell your kids how great they are at understanding that you need to work. What also helps make a signal more effective is practice, Gewirtz says. “We’re only limited by our imagination,” Zelazo says. But after that, there’s room to experiment. If it’s too hard, they’ll get frustrated and there goes the quiet. If something is too easy, they won’t care or learn. The challenge is finding the right balance. It could as easily be a drawing with certain shapes or colors or noticing birds out the window. They have to build something with that many pieces. You’ll hold up a piece of paper – another unspoken signal – which you have at the ready and which has a number on it. If it’s Legos, tell them beforehand that if you’re on a work call, you’re going to give them a special challenge. Again, plan with them and use activities that they particularly like. You also need variety, because the same thing won’t continue to hold them. “If Superman can do it, and I’m Superman, I can do it,” Zelazo says. The superhero provides a guide and framework for them to extend themselves. Your kids get to take on traits they might not believe they have, and this kind of pretend can help them think more flexibly and last longer with a difficult task. If secret agents don’t resonate, try a superhero. Kids already like to pretend, and, with the intrigue, staying quiet isn’t a task but part of a game in concert with you, Zelazo says. ![]() Couple it with a signal – create one this is your go-to move – which is the non-spoken cue for the mission. Say that you’re both secret agents and when you’re on the phone, they need to be quiet so no one knows your whereabouts. Be direct and let your kids know the goal is silence, but create some mystery with your plan. More than that, you want them to want to do it. You want them to be able to engage themselves in an activity. It’s a power play and it does nothing to develop their autonomy, Zelazo says. That’s the ultimate drawback with the shush. Then recruit your child as a collaborator to create a solution. Say it’s not your preference and explain that you need quiet when you’re busy. Use it, and afterwards debrief with your child. You can say, ‘No’ or ‘Be quiet,’ but it won’t be the best long-term approach,” Zelazo says.īut the shush can be your opening. “It’s your words against your child’s desires. What you really want is to ignore them when interruptions aren’t wanted. It becomes a reward and an encouragement for more disruptions, says Abigail Gewirtz, professor of family science and child development at University of Minnesota and author of When the World Feels Like a Scary Place. The bigger problem is that the shushing sound gives kids what they’re after: attention. “They’ll get used to it and a shush won’t carry any weight,” says Philip Zelazo, professor of child development at University of Minnesota. Shushing could work once, maybe twice, as a quick reminder of what a child is supposed to do, but it’s not a sustainable go-to move. So, you do what a lot of parents do: You give your kids a shush. ![]() Good mental note, but right now, you need the kids to understand that any talking, any interrupting, needs to stop and must stop immediately. You know that pre-planning and setting them up with an engaging activity is the way to go. Usually, it’s not a bad time, but you’re on a Zoom call and absolutely cannot be disturbed. ![]() Free shushing for 12 hours for your baby | Shushing is a fantastic white noise option for your baby’s sleep environment (especially for younger babies) | □ Follow for more □ Free white noise shushing track Beautiful Memories - Lux-Inspira.You can hear the feet coming up the stairs, then the door opens without a knock. #whitenoise #whitenoisemachine #shushing #shushingsounds #freewhitenoise #itswhitenoise #sleepenvironment #sleephygiene #sleepfoundations #babysleep #babysleeptips #babysleephelp #babysleepadvice #sleepconsultant #babysleepconsultant #pediatricsleepconsultant". #whitenoise #whitenoisemachine #shushing #shushingsounds #freewhitenoise #itswhitenoise #sleepenvironment #sleephygiene #sleepfoundations #babysleep #babysleeptips #babysleephelp #babysleepadvice #sleepconsultant #babysleepconsultant #pediatricsleepconsultantĢ5 Likes, TikTok video from Cat □ Baby Sleep Consultant❤️ "Replying to I’ve created the perfect shushing sound for your baby to help them sleep well. Replying to I’ve created the perfect shushing sound for your baby to help them sleep well.
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